Nobody ever says that, that those who fear falling in love have this tendency to be more affectionate and nurturing and gentle lovers. It’s not the fear of “falling in love” that they’re actually afraid of but the fear of “being in love.” The fear of being somewhere they’ve always wanted and the fear of not being worthy enough of it.
The truth about love is that it’s both energizing and draining. It makes you better, and sometimes it makes you worse. It allows you to breathe and all of the sudden it suffocates you. It feels sad, and in the end, it’s the thing that keeps you going. It’s the thing that you should never ever give up on.
and no matter
you miss a toxic
for fuck sake
don’t write letters
don’t buy flowers
don’t stop the wedding
don’t get into a relationship.
allow yourself to heal.
true love will find you someday.
If you love someone and they also love you back, then you must be very real with them. Be honest. Be authentic with what you really would like the relationship to be. There’s no reason to put on some masks for they already love you for who you are. So what is it that you want? Is it affection? Is it deep discussions? Is it showing interest in intellectual pursuits? Is it space and alone time? Adventure? Acknowledgment and appreciation for the kind things that you do? Think about it. Think about it and breathe and then decide. And then go get the love that you truly, truly deserve.