The Perks of Being a Wallflower
“We accept the love we think we deserve”
Basically, I feel like this book is about facing our deepest fears. We try to find love in all the wrong places when all we have to do is to know ourselves and know where that fear is coming from. This caused the main character in the book Charlie, to be both happy and sad, and he doesn’t know why even though I feel like deep inside he really knows why. He was molested by her Aunt Helen when he was a young child and he tried his best by suppressing those memories with friendship, love, and drugs.
Not that friendship or love is bad. Although bad drugs are bad. But because it came in a way where those things became his thing to divert himself from his real purpose which is finding out why he is both happy and sad. In the end of the novel, his friends left for college and there we see the collapse of his ego. The collapse of his diverted world.
He was found naked at his parent’s room. He was taken to a psychiatric hospital. And that’s the time he accepted the fact that his Aunt Helen molested her. Her psychiatrist was right about all the weird questions she keeps asking him about his Aunt Helen throughout some chapters in the book.
The lesson here is facing your fears. And when you have faced them, then that’s the time you try to participate in friendship and love which are essential in growing up even though you’re an introvert. Or whoever you may be.
I’ll end with one of my favorite quotes from this book.
“So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.”